For some time now it seems like a lot of the "Christians" I know have become some of the most very judgmental people I know. This makes my heart hurt in such a deep way. It seems as though people want to fit everyone into some kind of mold. My heart is also angry right now so I am trying to be very careful in my words. My 17 year old son has had his ears pierced since he was about 2. ( I didn't do it, and didn't know about it til after the fact) Also I was not a Christian when he was 2, and lead the complete opposite of my life I lead now. He hasn't worn earrings since he was like 3. He has been asking if he could put some in. We have said no, up until the point where he graduated High School, and is working a full time job. I feel like he is old and mature enough to make that choice for himself. The deal was he couldn't wear them to Church or Church activities. Well last night he forgot to take them out. Someone felt the need to talk to him about it, and in so many words told him he was a bad role model (Not sure when he ever claimed to be a role model) and then questioned him in his faith and plans to serve a mission. Now we all know earrings come out right? Its not a tattoo on his forehead. He doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, go to parties, heck he doesn't even date. He is an amazing kid that helps with his special needs brothers and sisters, works full time, is always home by curfew of before, and loves the Lord. Sometimes we need to pick our battles. If his having sparkly earring in his ears that can be taken out is my biggest concern for him, then well I think we are pretty lucky.
Our own Church prophet has given many talks on not judging others. We talk about listening to the words of our prophet, maybe we should make sure we are listening to all his words and not picking and choosing what works for us.