Catching up

Words cannot express how happy I am that December is over. The excitement of the holidays throws some of the kids into a tailspin for one, and two school is out for 2 weeks, which puts Bradley off schedule on top of everything else.

So as we know Layna was cycling down and down. The crisis team ended up being called, and her Psychiatrist ended up having her admitted into the kids mental health unit for observation. We (Dr's) have been "tracking" her behavior for years and she has been in therapy since she was 3. Due to years of data, and family history (we are thankful to have access to) she has an official dx now. "Early onset bipolar disorder with psychosis" Big long sigh..... I cried all day after hearing it. Then I realized at least now we know. It is easier to help and understand when you know. The Dr started her on new meds. I hate the new meds. They make me sad. BUT they make her a happy stable little girl so far since they have hit a "therapeutic level" This makes me cry for joy. She actually came to me and told me she was angry the other day, and came and told me she was sad another. THIS IS HUGE HUGE HUGE. She has never been able to tell us these things. Instead she would just rage and rage and rage. So prayers, good vibes, kind thoughts are appreciated we can keep on this path. She deserves to know what it feels like to be a stable and happy little girl.

Bradley.... He is healing :) He is becoming more and more affectionate and I am so very happy :) He is also still super crazy and these past 2 weeks felt like forever LOL. He drove the other kids pretty much batty. He is still really delayed, so he is like a 2 1/2 3 year old in a 5 1/2 year old body. He copies EVERYTHING and EVERYONE. It drives the kids crazy LOL. He still doesn't understand how to play by himself, so he just wanders around until he finds someone to pester :) He also talks NON STOP.  Man I love this kid, but I have never been so happy to see his teacher this morning in my life LOL. I need a break, we all need a break. I like to look at it as a chance for us to miss him :)

HAHAHHA!!! As I am typing this  Layna just said " Mommy, I dont want to be rude and all, but I like when Brad is at school." 

Other kids are doing really well :) The 3 little girls ( Paige, Layna and Bry) are starting a mixed martial arts class tonight. I am so not the contact sport kind of Mom, But Dh goes, and thinks it will good for them. Therapists agree. So I hope it works out well. They are REALLY excited!

So onto answering the comment left by "anonymous" Funny when someone wants to say something negative they hide :) They told me that I have " Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome" and that they wonder how my children would be if they were not being raised by me. 


I 1st read this message while out to lunch with the 6 little kids and my oldest daughter the Friday before Christmas on my phone. Honestly I started cracking up. My oldest daughter got really mad and defensive. I told her to not let some troll bother her, and if it didnt hurt my feelings, why should it bother her. I also mentioned it to the kids therapist. She also cracked up.  She said to answer your question odds are they would be bounced around throughout foster care and wind up in a group home or in residential treatment. Social Worker also gave same answer ( and same laughter) 


You see "anonymous" we have a HUGE "team" here for our kids. Drs (Ped, Developmental, and Psych), therapist's (mental, physical, occupational, speech) ,social workers (home and school), respite, habilitation, and teachers. While I appreciate that you think I am so smart that I could manipulate ALL of these people for the past 4 years, I think you may just have to accept that I am just a Mom, raising kids dealing with trauma, doing the best I can.


A little about MBPS in case you dont know :)

About MBPS

In MBPS, an individual — usually a mother — deliberately makes another person (most often his or her own preschool child) sick or convinces others that the person is sick. The parent or caregiver misleads others into thinking that the child has medical problems by lying and reporting fictitious episodes. He or she may exaggerate, fabricate, or induce symptoms. As a result, doctors usually ordertests, try different types of medications, and may even hospitalize the child or perform surgery to determine the cause.

Typically, the perpetrator feels satisfied by gaining the attention and sympathy of doctors, nurses, and others who come into contact with him or her and the child. Some experts believe that it isn't just the attention that's gained from the "illness" of the child that drives this behavior, but also the satisfaction in being able to deceive individuals that they consider to be more important and powerful than themselves.

Because the parent or caregiver appears to be so caring and attentive, often no one suspects any wrongdoing. A perplexing aspect of the syndrome is the ability of the parent or caregiver to fool and manipulate doctors. Frequently, the perpetrator is familiar with the medical profession and is very good at fooling the doctors. Even the most experienced doctors can miss the meaning of the inconsistencies in the child's symptoms. It's not unusual for medical personnel to overlook the possibility of MBPS because it goes against the belief that a parent or caregiver would never deliberately hurt his or her child.

Diagnosing MBPS

Diagnosis is very difficult, but would involve some of the following:

• a child who has multiple medical problems that don't respond to treatment or that follow a persistent and puzzling course
• physical or laboratory findings that are highly unusual, don't correspond with the child's medical history, or are physically or clinically impossible
• short-term symptoms that tend to stop when the perpetrator isn't around
• a parent or caregiver who isn't reassured by "good news" when test results find no medical problems, but continues to believe that the child is ill
• a parent or caregiver who appears to be medically knowledgeable or fascinated with medical details or appears to enjoy the hospital environment
• a parent or caregiver who's unusually calm in the face of serious difficulties with the child's health
• a parent or caregiver who's highly supportive and encouraging of the doctor, or one who is angry and demands further intervention, more procedures, second opinions, or transfers to more sophisticated facilities

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