The good, the bad and the ug.... Umm badder?

Well lets start with the good. I just got a very nice email from Circle of Moms saying I was nominated for the Top 25 adoption blog contest. So whoever nominated me Thank you so very much :) And for anyone reading that would like to , you can vote for me HERE

Now onto the bad. The Monday of Spring Break I received a letter in the mail from Bradley's teacher, telling me his "IEP TEAM" had decided to mainstream him 80% of the day. Ummm excuse me. I wasnt there and I would have never got on board with that. The best part of the letter is she mailed it the day she went on maternity leave, and so I would get it over Spring Break! So the Monday back to school comes and finds me in the office 1st thing in the morning. Principal is in a meeting all day, so is mainstream teacher. The secretary refers me to the school psychologist. I speak to him, he is confused as to what is going on and will look into it and call me back on Wed. Tuesday I speak to mainstream teacher. She tells me that she thinks he is doing fine academicaly. So I pull out all the papers I have been saving showing how much he has regressed while spending time in her class, and how he is not doing ANY schoolwork at all in the afternoon while they are "working more independently" . I get a stutter , stammer nonsense excuse answer from her.  Also I am informed how good his behavior and concentration  has been. So I ask her then why did they have to have me change him from shorts to pants because the birthmark on his leg was so distracting he couldn't do anything else but mess with it, and why is he pooping his pants so he doesnt have to go to class after lunch recess? I get no answer and informed that he is not her first RAD kid, she has had one before that was much worse. I let her know it is not a contest, and honesty I dont care about her past student, I care about my kid and him not being shoved through the system. So after that and a conversation with the school psychologist again which included me asked him if he even knows what my son looks like or has meet him in real life, it was decided that he will be going back into his Special needs kindy classroom for 80% of the day where there is people to help him with his schoolwork :)

Now on to the super fun stuff. We got weekend repsite for Layna. She gets to go to the place that looks like a house, where they take the kids on fun field trips and stuff. She is approved to go from Friday at 3pm til Sunday at 6pm. Well we normally only take her Saturdays from 9 til 6. This past weekend was General Conference for our church. I decided to let her go all weekend, so I could actually listen to the conference. (It is on TV both Sat and Sun) She is super excited, I am super excited, all is well. Or so I thought. We pick her up Sunday and I can tell something is not right. I keep asking her if she is tired, not feeling well, etc. Well she is home less then 1 hour and starts being mean to the other kids. So I tell her if your going to be mean go to your room. She starts melting down. I again tell her if you are going to scream you need to do it in your room, that it is not allowed in the family room. Meltdown starts to escalate. So I pick her up on the floor from under her arms and walk her to her room. Now we start full blown mode. Ripped the curtains out of the wall, throwing stuff everywhere, then onto the self harm. Dh tries to talk to her to no avail. So I call crisis.  They can hear her over the phone and decide to send someone out. Well the crisis team is 30 minutes out, so the police show up. The minute she saw that police officer standing in her bedroom doorway she stopped. He takes her out to the family room, and proceeds to tell her for 30 min how she will no longer act like that, and if he comes out again and see's that behavior he himself will take her to the children's mental ward. So crisis comes out, they are here for over an hour, she is finally stable, they leave we can all go to bed. So lesson learned that weekend respite is way to much for her, and we will stick to Saturdays only.....

So that is that. And missing from this post is Paige having a seizure, 2 of the kids in a car accident, and me almost killing my neighbor in my driveway. So you can look forward to those posts over the next few days LOL

But no matter what goes on I will face all these trials with faith, and find joy in the journey :)









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